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Coaching for Men, Teen Boys, and Couples - Based in Canada (with offices in British Columbia and Ontario)
Strong & Connected is a Relational Life Therapy coaching practice founded by Koby Smutylo serving men, teen boys, and couples in British Columbia, Ontario and elsewhere in Canada.
Our work supports people who care deeply about their emotions and relationships and maybe feel stuck in patterns of conflict, shutdown, resentment, or emotional distance.
At Strong & Connected, the focus is simple:
Build emotional strength, take responsibility, and create real connection.
Many of the people I work with are capable, intelligent, and motivated. What they’re missing isn’t effort—it’s relational skills that were never taught.
That’s where this work begins.
👉 Book a free Strong & Connected consultation
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.
I Work With Couples
I work with couples who feel stuck in repeating conflict, emotional distance, or power struggles and want real tools to change how they relate.
Couples often seek this work because:
- Arguments escalate or never resolve
- Trust or connection has eroded
- Resentment or withdrawal has set in
- They are unsure whether to repair or separate
Couples coaching focuses on:
- Identifying destructive relationship patterns
- Learning to regulate emotion during conflict
- Building accountability without blame
- Repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust
I also offer discernment (stay-or-go) coaching for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship and want clarity rather than pressure.
Book a free Strong & Connected consultation
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.
I Work With Men
I work with men who want to be stronger, steadier, and more effective in their relationships.
Men often come to this work because they:
- Struggle with communication, anger, or emotional shutdown
- Feel disconnected from their partner, kids, or sense of purpose
- Are navigating separation, divorce, fatherhood, or major transitions
- Are tired of repeating the same relationship patterns
Men’s coaching focuses on:
- Emotional regulation under pressure
- Clear, grounded communication
- Accountability without shame
- Relational leadership and self-respect
This work is direct, practical, and designed for real life.
👉 Book a free Strong & Connected consultation
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.
I Work With Teen Boys
I work with teen boys (approximately ages 10–17) who are struggling emotionally, behaviorally, or relationally—and whose parents want support that is firm, respectful, and effective.
This work often helps boys who:
- Act out or shut down emotionally
- Struggle with anger, anxiety, or motivation
- Get caught in power struggles with parents or school
- Feel misunderstood or discouraged
Coaching for teen boys builds:
- Emotional regulation and self-control
- Accountability without humiliation
- Communication and repair skills
- Confidence and self-respect
Parents are supported and involved as appropriate. The goal is to help boys grow into grounded, responsible young men.
👉 Book a free Strong & Connected consultation
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.
The Relational Life Therapy Foundation
My work is grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real.
RLT is a practical, accountability-based approach that emphasizes:
- Emotional regulation and adult-to-adult relating
- Identifying and interrupting losing strategies (defensiveness, withdrawal, control)
- Responsibility for impact, not just intention
- Repairing relationships through changed behavior
- Balancing compassion with clear expectations
Rather than focusing on who is “right,” RLT focuses on what actually works to restore connection, respect, and integrity in real relationships.
I translate this approach into clear, therapy-informed coaching that fits everyday life—for men, families, and couples.
How I Work
Across all services—men, teen boys, and couples—the work is:
- Direct, respectful, and grounded
- Skills-based rather than insight-only
- Focused on patterns, not pathology
- Oriented toward accountability, repair, and growth
This is not about fixing people.
It’s about helping them show up differently.
Start With a Free Consultation
If you’re considering coaching for yourself, your son, or your relationship, the best next step is a conversation with me, Koby Smutylo.
A free consultation allows you to:
- Talk openly about what’s not working
- Identify patterns keeping you stuck
- Decide whether this approach is the right fit
👉 Book a Strong & Connected couples consultation
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.